This article completes the third pillar of the SIS framework.
In the model:
- Productive Thinking prevents faulty thoughts.
- Strong Decisions prevent weak decisions.
- Appropriate Solutions prevent inappropriate solutions.
The central idea is powerful:
Most people are not stressed because they have problems.
They are stressed because they keep applying solutions that do not solve the problem.
SUPRA STRESS PREVENTION through START INVITING STRESS (SIS)
Stage 3 - How to Find Appropriate Solutions?
Why the Wrong Solution Often Creates More Stress Than the Original Problem
Most people assume that stress comes from problems
But if you observe carefully, you will discover something surprising.
Many stressful situations continue not because the problem is impossible to solve, but because the solution being applied is inappropriate.
The individual keeps trying.
Keeps struggling.
Keeps investing time and energy.
Yet the situation does not improve.
Why?
Because effort cannot compensate indefinitely for an inappropriate solution.
A wrong solution often creates more stress than the original problem.
This is why Appropriate Solutions form the third pillar of SIS - Start Inviting Stress.
What Is an Appropriate Solution?
An appropriate solution is one that:
- Addresses the actual problem
- Matches the situation
- Uses available resources wisely
- Produces progress
- Reduces unnecessary stress
An inappropriate solution may be:
- Too much
- Too little
- Too late
- Misdirected
- Based on assumptions
The result is usually the same:
More stress.
Why People Choose Inappropriate Solutions
People often respond to problems emotionally rather than strategically.
They seek:
- Immediate relief
- Quick fixes
- Familiar habits
- Temporary comfort
Unfortunately, temporary relief and effective solutions are not always the same thing.
Example 1: The Student Who Studies Harder
A student performs poorly in examinations.
The student decides:
"I need to study longer."
So study hours increase.
Stress increases.
Exhaustion increases.
Results remain poor.
Why?
Because the real problem was not effort.
The real problem was ineffective study methods.
The student applied effort to the wrong solution.
Example 2: The Employee Who Works Longer Hours
An employee struggles to complete tasks.
The response is simple:
Work later.
Work weekends.
Sleep less.
Initially, this appears productive.
Eventually, burnout appears.
The actual problem may have been:
- Poor planning
- Weak delegation
- Lack of skill
- Inefficient processes
The solution addressed symptoms, not causes.
Example 3: The Parent Who Repeats Instructions
A parent constantly tells a child:
"Study."
"Study."
"Study."
The child continues to struggle.
The parent increases pressure.
The stress level rises in everyone.
Yet the real issue may be:
- Poor learning skills
- Lack of motivation
- Weak concentration
- Unclear goals
Pressure becomes an inappropriate solution.
The Difference Between Relief and Resolution
Many people confuse relief with resolution.
Relief reduces discomfort temporarily.
Resolution addresses the problem.
Example: Financial Stress
A person worries about debt.
To feel better, they avoid looking at bills.
Stress decreases temporarily.
The debt remains.
The solution provides relief but not resolution.
An appropriate solution might involve:
- Budgeting
- Planning repayments
- Increasing income
- Reducing expenses
The stress may initially increase.
But the problem begins to decrease.
Appropriate Solutions Begin with Understanding
Before solving a problem, ask:
"What exactly is the problem?"
This sounds obvious.
Yet many people skip this step.
Example
A manager notices declining performance.
Assumes employees are lazy.
Introduces stricter supervision.
Morale drops further.
The actual problem was inadequate training.
A solution was applied before understanding the problem.
Appropriate Solutions Match the Cause
Different causes require different solutions.
Example: Fatigue
If the cause is:
Lack of sleep
Rest is appropriate.
Poor time management
Planning is appropriate.
Burnout
Recovery and capability development may be appropriate.
Illness
Medical attention may be appropriate.
The symptom looks similar.
The causes differ.
The solutions differ.
Appropriate Solutions Focus on What Can Be Changed
Many people spend energy trying to solve problems they cannot influence.
Examples:
- The past
- Other people's personalities
- Economic conditions
- Weather
- Aging
This creates frustration.
Instead ask:
"What can I change?"
Examples:
- My skills
- My habits
- My preparation
- My communication
- My decisions
Stress decreases because effort is directed productively.
Example: Workplace Conflict
Inappropriate Solution
Trying to control another person's behavior.
Appropriate Solution
Improving communication.
Clarifying expectations.
Managing reactions.
The focus shifts from control to influence.
Appropriate Solutions Use Stress Productively
Every challenge generates energy.
The question is:
Where will that energy go?
Example: Public Speaking Fear
A person feels nervous before a presentation.
Inappropriate Solution
Avoid presentations forever.
The fear remains.
Appropriate Solution
Practice gradually.
Start with small groups.
Build confidence.
The stress energy becomes growth.
The Four Questions of Appropriate Solutions
Whenever you face a problem, ask:
1. What is the actual problem?
Not the symptom.
The cause.
2. What is creating the problem?
Identify contributing factors.
3. What can I influence?
Focus on controllable elements.
4. What action is most likely to improve the situation?
Not merely to reduce discomfort.
Improve the situation.
Examples of Common Inappropriate Solutions
Problem:
Loneliness
Inappropriate Solution:
Endless social media
Appropriate Solution:
Meaningful relationships
Problem:
Boredom
Inappropriate Solution:
Constant entertainment
Appropriate Solution:
Meaningful challenges
Problem:
Poor performance
Inappropriate Solution:
Working longer
Appropriate Solution:
Improving skills
Problem:
Anxiety
Inappropriate Solution:
Avoidance
Appropriate Solution:
Preparation and gradual exposure
Problem:
Burnout
Inappropriate Solution:
Temporary rest only
Appropriate Solution:
Capability development plus recovery
The SIS Perspective
Many people ask:
"How do I eliminate stress?"
A better question is:
"How do I use stress constructively?"
Appropriate solutions help us do exactly that.
They transform stress energy into:
- Learning
- Adaptation
- Achievement
- Growth
A Practical Exercise
Whenever you feel stressed, write:
Situation
What is happening?
Problem
What is the actual problem?
Current Solution
What am I currently doing?
Result
Is it working?
Alternative Solution
What else could I try?
First Action
What will I do next?
Final Thought
Life will always present challenges.
Stress will always accompany meaningful activity.
The objective is not to avoid problems.
The objective is not to eliminate stress.
The objective is to respond wisely.
Inappropriate solutions often create more suffering than the original problem.
Appropriate solutions transform stress into progress.
That is the essence of SIS – Start Inviting Stress.
Choose challenges carefully.
Think productively.
Decide strongly.
And most importantly,
Find solutions that move you forward.
This article completes a very elegant three-part SIS sequence:
- How to Engage in Productive Thinking
- How to Make Strong Decisions
- How to Find Appropriate Solutions
Together, these directly counter the SAS model of:
- Faulty Thoughts
- Weak Decisions
- Inappropriate Solutions
and provide us with a practical path from stress attraction to stress selection and growth.
Finding appropriate solutions is a skill that comes from consistent practice
Whether big or small, the solution has to depend on systematic thinking skills
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